Best way to feel less alone? Keep yourself alone.

Don't even look at the lives of other people. If you're living fine, don't even try looking at others' "eventful" lives (even if it's simply studying with another mate) Basically, drown yourself in your own activities and forget about communicating with others.

Shut yourself out until you can't take it anymore. That's when you're truly feeling alone and empty. At least you've fully exploited the enjoyment you can have out of being alone. Once you're done ...

... that's when I need an answer. Block out all expectations.

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Compare, if you can accept reality and not be jealous.

Fill up your empty life to make it seem less empty, if lying to yourself can beat that empty feeling. It'll never work.

Reach out to the rest in enthusiasm, if having forced or no response sounds fine. Just wait for the rest to reach out.

Try waiting, if you can bear with the pain of discovering there might be nobody. Numb yourself, surprises will mean more.

Be optimistic, as long as you do not understand disappointment. The world will teach you countless lessons about that.

Expect, if you're prepared to get yourself killed.

Trust, in others and yourself, if you have too much love to lose.

Hold hope in all these, only if you're certain you're lucky enough.


Accept reality. That's all we need to know.


Optimism and trying to be happy won't work. Many have told me everything points to forced optimism, everything surface level, AND we're supposed to live with that. Accept damned reality.

It's perfectly fine to operate from abundance, everybody has those times. (I sent out the ILYs without anything else in mind). Just accept the fact that happiness comes once in a blue moon and enjoy those short moments as much as possible. It's impossible to love this screwed up mess of a world all the time. So don't mourn when it's gone. A moment of pure joy beats trying too hard for a lifetime of it.

Perhaps joy is like water. Cup it gently and it'll stay, flowing away eventually but effortless while it's there. Squeeze your hands too tightly and it'll all be gone, gone the moment it comes to you.

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The reason why I can sort of get over things eventually even though the cycle keeps repeating and hurt is always involved?

I never had somebody to start with. Never had somebody important enough, never important enough to anybody, never had someone with me since the start, and probably nobody to be with me till the very end.

Who's to blame? Me, probably. Knowing that feels better. Knowing I'm like that without having any hopes for the future, without any expectations. That feels better. Ultimately, just preparing myself for the hurt I'll probably experience. If it's actually possible.